On this day September 28 in 1943, my great-grandmother Ellen Louisa was buried at Woronora Cemetery, New South Wales. Although born a Cole she had been married twice, firstly to my great-grandfather, Alfred Charles Bray, and sometime after his death to Walter Clark, but that is part of her story.
Ellen Louisa was born on January 22, 1874 on the large rural property, Gidleigh, near Bungendore NSW. Both of Ellen’s parents, Frederick William Cole and Ellen (nee) McFarlane were also born in NSW and were married at St. Phillip’s church in Bungendore. Ellen Louisa was the tenth of their nineteen children, although not all of them lived to adulthood.
Frederick was a sawyer and labourer who worked on several properties in the area near Bungendore including Foxlox and Carwoola as well as Gidleigh. We can only imagine that both his wife and children would have been engaged in work in those properties. As quite large rural stations these supported sizeable communities and facilities such as a school which Ellen Louisa would have no doubt attended.
By the age of twenty years Ellen Louisa was to be found at Balmain in Sydney when she married Alfred Charles Bray at St. Thomas’s church in Balmain South on February 15, 1894 with the permission of her father. At the time Alfred was a sorter at the General Post Office but later became a mail train guard and as a result the young couple moved several times while raising their family. Hurstville had become the Bray family home where they had settled with their eight children when tragedy struck.
On the foggy night of March 16, 1914, the mail train on which Alfred was working collided with another train at Exeter in the Southern Highlands killing 14 people including Alfred. At the time it was the worst rail disaster experienced in the country. Ellen Louisa was left with several children still at home but was eventually granted some compensation for herself and the younger children. She continued to live at Hurstville and was remembered as a strong woman that is no doubt a result of her early years in the bush.
In 1923, at the age of 49 years, she married widower and tramway employee, Walter Clark at Redfern. It is believed that she outlived Walter because she was again living at Hurstville when as Ellen Louisa Clark died at the age of 69 years. She was buried next to Alfred Charles Bray at Woronora.